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THIS 
If so, you
could be his next victim…
Resources Used to Find the Truth
Let’s call him Mr. X.
RETRACTION…I learned
Based on his July 2006 police report
his real age is 46 (DOB 5/13/1960). So,
he must have falsified his age on the other records that I found stating his
DOB as
In addition to being married, he has supplemented his
income by conning folk with hard luck stories.
He also uses various names –you may know him as Ameri Mitchell, Amir or
Omari Tinsley, or Lantis Smith/King, Lamar or Omari Smith. I only found out his
real name --Omari Rashad Smith-- because it was the name on his bank
account. It is also believed that a
woman is working with him because he pretended to call his office and had some
woman tell me it was a private investigation agency. Another woman from BP has since told me of a
similar account, where he pretended to be calling his law office. He also claimed to be an ex-Dallas Police
Officer.
How do I know all this? Because… I was one of his victims.
Mr. X has (or had) email/profiles on the web under the
following names:
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mrnupeman@aol.com on GreekChat.com
·
YoBabyYoNupe@blackplanet.com on BlackPlanet.com (He removed his profile
from this site on
1.
One of the women
told me that with her, he claimed to be a private investigator working for the
Dallas Police and later also accused her of giving him some sort of
2.
Another woman was
told that he was a model and his current financial difficulties were due to his
many sacrifices to support his family –she contacted the police to make her
statement on
3.
One was told by
Mr. Smith that he was a political candidate and that his recent financial
difficulties were due to monies needed for his campaign and an
4.
He told another
woman that he was a model agent. Among
other things he told the young lady he’d need to run a credit report on her
before he could finalize her contract with his “fictitious” agency. Fortunately, she checked his references
before becoming any more involved with him and quickly learned that he wasn’t
the model and/or agent he claimed to be.
During my relationship with him, he usually drove a
Black Mitsubishi V6 Galant, license #Z03 HNF; but, I also saw him in a burgundy
Ford Escape and silver Toyota Camry. So,
I know he has access to several other cars.
I met Mr. X in the summer of 2005 via a popular online
dating website. He told me he was an attorney in the child support division for
the Attorney General. He claimed that he
had never been married and didn’t have any children. He told me that he made $165,000/yr and owned
2 rental properties in addition to his home in Frisco, Texas. He was planning to run for councilman for the
City of Frisco. He also claimed to be a
god-fearing man –even said he used to play the organ at the church I was
attending. He claimed to be good friends
with the Senior Pastor of my church (because they were both Kappas) and was
very familiar with a lot of the larger Black churches in the area. He knew that I was new to the area and didn’t
know many people, so I was an easy target…
The hard luck stories started pouring in shortly
before he professed his love to me and told me that he wanted me to be his
wife:
- A former friend committed identity theft and
wiped out his accounts and charged up $70K online over a 3-day period
- His father died suddenly of a heart attack –and
of course the family expected him to pay most of the funeral costs because
he was making the big bucks
- His mother’s home was in foreclosure and if he
didn’t come up with $50K in 2 weeks, she’d lose her home (after just
losing her husband)
- One of his rental properties caught fire and for
some reason the insurance company was denying his claim
- He said he had herpes and needed $8000 for an
experimental cure
- And on and on and on…he even got on his knees and
prayed with me on one occasion…even told me he wanted to be my Man of God.
Believing that he was making six figures and that we
would be married within a year…I used the credit line that I had recently
opened to consolidate some of my debt to give him a series of several small
loans-- thinking it would only be a few months until he got back on his
feet. He called me one day at work in
late August, all excited about just having completed a phone interview with an
executive (and Kappa Alumni) over at Fujitsu.
He wanted my opinion on whether or not to take the job because it was
going to require up to 80% travel
But, as December got closer, I saw him less and
less. I became suspicious when he said
maybe we should “just be friends” until he got himself back on track
financially. So, I started checking some
of his stories out, I learned that nothing he’d told me was true. His story started changing…he told me he was
a private investigator investigating corruption in the Dallas Police Department
and that’s why he had lied about where he worked…but I couldn’t find any
property under his name either. In spite
of my suspicions about him, I went ahead and did the online transfers from his
account to my various creditors in late December as payment for the money he
had borrowed earlier like we had discussed.
The first few transfers cleared but about a week later he disputed all
of the charges to his account, had them reversed and closed the account. When I begged him repeatedly to pay me back,
he claimed that the money was a gift and/or what I owed him for supposedly
giving him herpes. After running
several traces on what little information about him there was that I knew to be
true, I found out the house he lives in (at 613 Aqua Dr, Little Elm, TX 75068)
is rented. He’s been married since 2002
and has 3 sons.
I went to the Dallas Police Swindle Squad initially in
October 2005 and told them my story (fully expecting that Mr. X would have
closed his bank account by the time I was supposed to get my money back from
him). I was told that unless other
victims of his could be found, it didn’t look like the information I had so far
was enough to go to the District Attorney.
Due to the fact that when the police contacted Mr. X, he claimed the
money was a gift and that I was just a rejected bitter lover. So, in an effort to find other victims, I
created this webpage with all of the information that I knew about him and his
pictures and started emailing other women on BP to see if I could find other
victims.
A total of 20 other women have contacted me thus far,
claiming they were contacted by Mr. X at various times over the past three years
and told similar stories. He gave them
various alias names but told them all he was an attorney and/or private
investigator, a political candidate, model and/or model agent. Some of them had sex with him; others dated
him for a while but became suspicious when he inquired too frequently about
their earnings/assets. Others were
simply turned off by his arrogance.
Mr.X was investigated by the Dallas
Police but the other victims found were not willing to testify. The purpose of this webpage is to:
1.
Encourage other victims to come forward so
that this man can be brought to justice.
2.
Expose him so that other people don’t
suffer like I did.
If you have been one of his victims… Please contact the Dallas Police
Swindle Squad directly at 214.671.3513 or mrswindle@yahoo.com.
I created this site in all seriousness;
but, the following is too funny not to share.
I received this email from Mr.X on 3/2/06:
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From: |
Nupeman1996@aol.com |
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Date: |
Thu, 2 Mar 2006
21:26:09 EST |
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Subject: |
(no subject) |
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To: |
blessed4d1@yahoo.com |
I am asking
that this site be taken done or I will be filling a conjunction come first
thing in the morning , gottagit.com. The police department have been notified,
I am asking again to remove this site of me on your page. ASAP , you have
deplayed my picture, number, etc on your site without my permission, and down
grading me with all that on this site. You will remove this off this site by
12.00am or a conjunction will be filed.
For those of you that don’t see the humor…a conjunction
is the part of speech that serves to connect
words, phrases, clauses or sentences, like ‘and,’ ‘or’, or ‘but’. An
injunction is a court order prohibiting a
party from a specific course of action. He’s filling,
not filing, a conjunction
if I don’t take it done, not down, because I deplayed,
not displayed, his picture without his
permission. And, this guy told folks he
was an attorney…Assault on the English language should be added to the list of
charges against him.
CHUCKLE OF THE
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Nupeman1996@aol.com 03/08/2006 11:47 AM |
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A dancer!!! With those skinny
legs?!? And, who would need a private
show with so many men willing to show their assets for free? I think the attorney/private investigator
story was more believable…At least he’s trying to use the spell checker
now...but, he missed one –harassment only has one ‘r’
not two.
Please note: On
Please let me
offer my condolences to you and your family…One of the other ladies that you
met on BlackPlanet recently informed me that you lost your father. It must be very traumatic for you losing him TWICE. I find it quite amazing
that even after his funeral back in August 2005, he managed to die again in
February 2006 –he must have been quite a fighter.
RETRACTION…I learned
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People have
asked how I found out the truth about Mr.X…Here
are a few resources that I highly recommend:
· Dallas
County Clerk for marriage and business owner information. Most counties have a website of some sort
where you can research public records online for free or for a nominal fee.
· Dallas Central
Appraisal District for property owner info.
· Net Detective
for criminal records and address info
· Intelius
People Search various data traces
· Abika various data
traces
· Datatrace
USA various data traces
· Texas
Dept. of Public Safety criminal records, sex offender records, etc.
· and of course, old reliable Google.com
I didn’t use the following ones but they were also
recommended to me:
For those of you
that have been doing research on my behalf thank you…but, I already have Mr.
X’s full real name, driver’s license number, home address, new cell number,
etc. I’ve chosen to remove or not post
this information on behalf of his wife and children who had nothing to do with
his actions. And, yes, his wife does
know about this site…I have spoken to both her and concerned friends of
hers. I have intentionally revised the
site to mitigate any harm or harassment of her and her family.
ON A DIFFERENT NOTE, this website was
originally created for God’s glory not Mr. X’s…Gotta GIT stands for “Gotta Get It Together”…it contains
the lesson outlines from my former Singles Ministry series. If I had heeded my own lessons, I probably
would not have gotten into this mess.
But, desire and despair blinded my otherwise good sense. Anyway, you are more than welcome to peruse
my archives and take something positive away from this negative
experience: Gotta
GIT Home Page
MORE ABOUT THE HERPES…THE DIRTY SECRET!
These are not
quotes from emails but the questions and thoughts I continue to struggle with:
- But, DJ you’re a
Christian! How could you say you
love the Lord and have unprotected sex outside of marriage!
- DJ, you taught Bible Studies
for years, how could you!
- DJ, if you are such an educated
and god-fearing woman how could you be SO STUPID and give this shady man
your money! Are you that desperate
and hard up for a man?
- DJ…if you’re that stupid, you
deserved it!
- DJ, don’t tell anyone about
this horrible situation because then they can use it against you…you’ll
never be respected or admired again…
- DJ, who could possibly want you
knowing this?
Ladies
and Gentlemen, Boys and Girls…Contrary to continuous perpetrating and popular
belief… a lot of Christians have and some still are having sex
before, after, and/or “outside of” marriage.
I don’t condone this or recommend it. But,
the fact remains…JESUS CONQUERED
It only takes one fall to end up
with something that you may never get rid of.
I have wanted to be married for years now, but it just hasn’t
happened. At some point last year, I
literally just gave up…I’d seen God move in other areas of my life but never
this one. So, I had it (with God)…I did it (with somebody who didn’t know they
had IT)…and I got IT (herpes).
I met Mr.X about a month after
finding out about my condition. I was
extremely ashamed and vulnerable; but, I covered it all with a smile and a
little makeup…I hid the depression by working countless hours. I was so deep in denial over the whole thing,
I even convinced myself that God had healed me.
At some point, after meeting Mr.X, I remember thinking maybe God healed
me just for him. (Ridiculous! I
know…) When he confronted me about it,
he claimed that he had me investigated by his private investigation agency
(that’s when he called the lady at his supposed office). He said that he had pulled my medical records
and found out about my diagnosis…that I better be careful with someone that
could pull my records like that and better not cross him. When he started yelling at me, asking me how
could I do this to someone I claimed to love, I broke down crying. He immediately stopped yelling, came over to
me and held me and told me to calm down.
He said that even though he was angry with me for not telling him
sooner, he still loved me and we would get through this. He said he still wanted me to be his
wife---because I was so beautiful, strong and everything he’d always wanted in
a woman. We were together intimately
again after that. Heck, after hearing all that, he could have told me the sky
was purple and I would have probably believed him. Whatever doubts I had about him, in that
moment the one thing I did believe was that he loved me. Then, about a week
later, he supposedly got tested and then told me that he had IT.
This all happened roughly a month
after his dad’s (firstJ) funeral…in September 2005, a few weeks before he was
supposed to be starting at Fujitsu, and right around the time we had started
discussing a trip to California for him to meet my parents. I had already loaned him several thousand
dollars (for his dad’s funeral and to help save mama’s house from foreclosure
sale). But, of course, now that he had
“IT”, I needed to loan him more money for treatments and an experimental cure
that his doctor supposedly offered.
Initially, he said he was going to try to get a loan on his house and
pay for both of us to get treated. But,
later he called and said that he could only come up with $5000 because he was
maxed out when he bought his mother’s house to save her from losing it…but the
“cure” was $8000. So, since he was going
to be making so much more money at Fujitsu…he’d get treated now (with my help)
and in a few months he’d pay for me to get treated.
In retrospect, I am uncertain
that he actually contracted herpes from me at all. I never had an outbreak during the time I was
with him and I never saw any physical evidence of him actually having it after
he said he did. I asked him several
times to give me his doctor’s information, so that I could try to work out getting
my treatment sooner. But, he always
managed to not have the information with him when we spoke or saw each
other. I don’t believe he had me
investigated. I think he went into my
medicine cabinet while I was in the shower, saw the Valtrex and recognized it
as an opportunity to get more money out of me.
The clincher is, after he got tested we didn’t have sex again…He claimed
the reason was that he wanted us to get our relationship right with God.
Anyway,
enough about him…How could I tell the world about all this??? And, for free!!! Because I rather have you see the truth from
my perspective and hear it from me than from someone who knows nothing about
me. Besides, I can’t point the finger at
someone else without more fingers pointing back at me. I’m ashamed and embarrassed about all of
this; but, I’m gonna get through this and I am okay. I am a
survivor and no longer a victim. The people that
really love me will still love me. The
people that are really my friends will still be my friends. And, what if any respect I lose because of
this, I believe I will gain elsewhere. The people that want to gossip and backbite
and tear me down will try do that anyway.
In my opinion, haters can do more damage by exposing your secrets than
if you expose them yourself. And
perhaps, if people felt safe and loved enough in church and with their families
to share these dirty secrets more quickly and openly, they could get the help
and support they need to overcome this sort of situation before falling prey to
someone like my Mr.X. Then, the ripple
effect is more people are educated about the virus and more people may take the
necessary precautions to stop it from spreading…
Some experts estimate that 1 in 4 sexually
active adults have herpes and many of them don’t even know it because the
symptoms can be so minor that they are often ignored or mistaken for something
else. There isn’t a cure yet; but,
besides prescribed medication, there are lots of herbal treatments and natural
remedies that can keep the virus dormant.
I personally know several people that tell me they have gone years
without an outbreak. And, from what I’m
told it’s very common for the outbreaks to lessen or sometimes stop altogether
after the first year. The worst part about having this virus is NOT the virus, it’s
fearing how people will react to you once you tell them you have it.
So,
there you have it…I no longer have any dirty little secrets. For those of you who may also be struggling
with this condition or who are just curious, here are some links I’ve found
informative, helpful and/or encouraging:
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http://www.mamashealth.com/stds/herpes.asp
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http://www.options4herpes.com/
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http://www.dfwfriends.com/hinfo.asp
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http://www.antigenics.com/news/2005/1018.phtml
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http://www.goaskalice.columbia.edu/1237.html
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http://www.texashnetwork.com/
·
http://www.htransit.com/herpes/texas.asp
Warning Signs That Your Guy Might Be Married
This is not the first time that I’ve been duped into dating a guy that turned out to be married. Several years ago, back when I first moved to Texas (in Austin, not Dallas). I met a man (on another dating site) that claimed to be saved and single. He lived in a different city but was close enough for us to see each other on weekends. He went so far as to meet my family and friends. He even told my mother that he was her potential future son-in-law just before meeting her. He sang in the choir, preached and taught the Word. He was even honest with me about where he lived and the church he went to. But, the woman he referred to once as an ex-girlfriend I found out over a year later was his wife. I later wrote his wife a letter telling her everything. The only reason he didn’t get busted out like Mr. X here is because, as far as I know, he lied only about being married and though he stole my heart, he didn’t steal my money. Mr. X is being blasted not because he broke my heart but because he literally committed a crime. Heartbreak, unfortunately, is just a part of living; but, don’t mess with my money!
Again,
why am I sharing this madness? …in hopes
of saving someone from making the mistakes I have. Online dating makes it extremely easy for
married men to have affairs. And, a lot
of them are even bold enough to tell you right upfront that they are married
and wanting a discreet relationship on the side. And, a lot of them go to church every Sunday
and think nothing of it. BUT, a lot of
them won’t tell you they are married; some of them even go so far as to have an
apartment on the side solely for the purpose of “playing single”…Now that I’ve
been through this again, hindsight is 20/20.
Here are some of warning signs
that your guy might be married:
- He always has an excuse for why you can’t go to his house. I fell for: “Some fellow church members live on my
street and I don’t want to give them anything to gossip about.” And, “My a/c is out, it leaked and
caused some damage downstairs…as soon as the repairs are finished…” And, “My mother (or some other relative)
is visiting.”
- He only
tells you the
- He claims to have this great job and drives a nice car but his apartment
is almost empty…not many clothes are in the closet and he’s
sleeping on an air mattress. That’s
not where he lives, just where he does his “side business.” Look
for signs of personalization-- a person’s home should have pictures,
keepsakes or some other signs of being lived in.
- You only see him at your place.
You
rarely go out. You only see him during the day and early evening,
never late at night. Depending on
his type of job, if seen with you during the day he can say you’re a
client or business associate.
- You’ve been seeing him for months but haven’t met any of his friends
(or maybe only one or two guy friends, but again only at your place not
elsewhere.) He might be okay with
you meeting one or two of his friends –just to show you off.
- He only
calls you during the day but rarely at night.
- He only
calls you from his cell phone and never any other number. He never gives you his home or work#.
- Above all, TRUST YOUR GUT (your first instincts). If you’re unsure, or something just
doesn’t seem right, it probably isn’t.
Here’s
an email I received recently with a lot of other excellent suggestions, it’s
called How
to Spot a Cheater.
In the later part of 2005, shortly after finding out that everything Mr.
X had told me was a lie, I fell into a deep depression. I blamed myself for being so gullible. I felt worthless, stupid, used…I even started
thinking it was all my fault. If I was
that stupid and desperate for a man, maybe I deserved it. I wished I was dead. I didn’t want to face my family or friends
and tell them that the wonderful attorney that I had told them about and
expected to marry was nothing but a con artist.
The few people that I told generally said to just suck it up and
consider it a lesson learned –they didn’t know that I had loaned this man a
little over $20,000.
THANK YOU ROBEN G. for not
letting me remain a victim. Thank you
for reminding me that I am a beautiful, intelligent woman that did not deserve
this and for encouraging me to stand up for myself and do what I could to see
this man brought to justice. And, I thank all of my other friends who have
continued to stand by me and support me through this dark period in my
life. Because of each of you, I’m still
here to tell my story. God bless you.
This page was created
2-25-2006, updated 09-01-08.